The kids are the future, and if we want our kids to play a significant role in the future, then we must motivate ourselves in order to inspire our kids to be the very best they can be. We must lead by example and walk our talk.
To clarify, when a parent is a doctor, accountant, entrepreneur, manager, chef, factory worker, waste management worker or construction worker, his or her child is most likely to follow the parents’ footsteps and have the same or similar career.
No matter what your situation or career/job is, you must motivate yourself and inspire your kids by giving them a positive upbringing filled with encouragement, support, love, understanding, with hopes and dreams of a brighter tomorrow.
My daughter Rosilda was about 3 or 4 years old when I use to subscribe to Anthony Robbins’ monthly Power Talk audio tapes. While I was driving, I’d always listen to educational and motivational tapes in the car and my daughter, well, had no other choice but to listen along with me.
I clearly remember her asking me questions like, “So daddy, what is power talk?” I would answer, “Power talk is like a vitamin for your mind and by listening, learning and implementing the ideas, you will grow to be a very strong and healthy minded young lady.” I don’t believe that at the age of 3 or 4 she clearly understood what I meant, however she knew what vitamins were and what purpose it served, because she took them daily.
My daughter and I have always been close and have completed many projects together over the years. Today (2011) she’s 19 years old going into her second year of university studying commerce, and majoring in marketing and we are still working together.
I wonder why! You think it has anything to do with dad being in some sort of marketing all his life? You think it may have to do with all the self-help, motivational tapes and compact discs (CD’s) we enjoyed together? You think it may have something to do with Mom and Dad being motivated and inspired throughout their life? Or it may just be because of genetics and she simply wanted to be a business woman and a leader?
I don’t exactly know, however the point that I’m making is that when we try to be the very best we can be it transfers to our kids because our kids emulate us.
Don’t procrastinate, make a conscious decision that you will be accountable for every step of the way and that you will achieve the necessary knowledge which will truly motivate you and inspire your kids.
Staying motivated takes great effort; our drive is continuously being beaten by negative thoughts and worries about our future and the future of our kids. This is normal for everyone, what truly distinguishes the highly successful, is possessing the ability to always shake off the negative thoughts and worries and move ahead.
There is no easy solution for lack of motivation. Even the most motivated individual will lack motivation especially when things don’t go the way they were planned.
The secret is to understand your thoughts and how they steer your emotions. It is important that you learn how to nurture motivating thoughts, throw away the negative thoughts and put the task at hand in the spotlight. Make sure that you don’t stay in a slump for too long so the negative doesn’t get a chance to gain momentum and transfer to your kids.
Being motivated is a lifestyle, either you have learned it or created this lifestyle, it has to become a recipe for you to utilize on a daily basis in order to be able to transfer enthusiasm to your kids and others in your life. You’re probably thinking, it’s not realistic to expect someone to always be up and maintain a yes-yes-yes attitude 24-7; and you’re right. However, you do have control of your 24 hours per day. Make the best of it.
Every parent I know wants to inspire their kids, however parents need a little reminder that one of the best ways you can educate your kids is to lead by example.
Since you are reading this book, I’m certain that you are the sort of individual who wants the very best for your family today, tomorrow and forever. After all, I’ve heard people say that a happy family is a family with limited or without stress.
Knowledge is wealth. Applied knowledge is power. Therefore let’s explore some effective behavior and actions which will assist in inspiring your kids.
- Encourage your child to express their opinion
- Talk about their feelings, and teach them to make choices
- Demonstrate enthusiasm for your child’s interests
- Encourage your child to explore subjects that fascinate him or her
- Encourage them to get involved in an organization like; Junior achievement
- Provide them with play opportunities that support different types of learning
- Teach them new things you learn enthusiastically
- Each day, ask what they are learning in school
- What did he or she learn new today?
- Celebrate their grades and accomplishments with rewards, compliments and congratulations
- Help with school projects and assignments in a ways so that they feel in control of the work
- Celebrate achievements, no matter how small
- Focus on strengths, encouraging developing talents
- Encourage and support their involvement in music, sports, theatre, community work etc.
- Turn everyday events into learning opportunities
- Have an incentive program annually for good grades and participation
- Show your child that you are involved and interested in what they’re involved in by attending all events and functions
- Never miss a parent teacher meetin
- Take your kid to work on “Take Your Kid(s) to Work Day”
- Be your child’s best friend
- Cook with your kid
- Play with your kids
- Be involved in your child’s life
Now, I certainly don’t want to pretend to have all the answers and I won’t pretend that I do. I have one daughter and my writing is based on ideas that I have learned and implemented in my own family life through the parenting process of my wife and I.
My objective is to be the very best parent I can be by maintaining a positive mental attitude and the determination to lead by example to the very best of my ability.
I encourage you to live a life of excitement and to the fullest, a life that really reflects your sense of passion and purpose. Assist your kids in developing their own unique abilities. I believe that every kid has the ability to succeed and parents have the potential to be their kids’ role model for learning.
When parents participate in their kids’ activities, the connections will have a life long lasting impact. Before we move to the next section of the book, I want to leave you with a quote on positive parenting by Mahatma Gandhi.
“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behaviors. Keep your behaviors positive because your behaviors become your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.”
YOU + THE MIND + THE ACTION = THE RESULTS
This content is from chapter 19 of my best selling personal growth book “Unleash the magnet in you”. http://donxavier.com/shop/ ©
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